The following stories are examples of how people have taken the message of The Grace of Ordinary Days and have celebrated their life journey together by creating their unique relationship legacy. The stories may give you ideas of how you might co-create your unique grace of ordinary days memoir with someone you care about.

They take turns planning the day.  They might go somewhere, or stay at one of their homes. Even though their lives are very busy, they do not compromise this monthly time together. The time is sacred for them, and they are getting closer to each other. They are no longer willing to take each other for granted.

They picked childhood experiences like cleaning the hallway closet on Saturday mornings, special red coats their mother sewed for them, and playing with cut-out dolls on the front steps. “My sister and I remembered the same events differently. In sharing our recall of these times, she filled in details of the little spaces of our growing up together that I never knew were spaces. I learned more of the life that we shared. For her to understand how much I had looked up to her brought us closer together.”

They take turns writing poetry to each other, and they have a conversation about what they wrote. This special time allows them to experience what the other person is feeling. The poems are conversation starters that would not be possible in the same way without the ongoing exchange. During one of their conservations, Jackson announced that when he grows up he is going to be a truck driver poet!